S02E15 Don Rosenthal on the Art of Relationship
Don Rosenthal is the author of The Uncharted Journey, and Learning to Love, which he co-authored with his partner of 48 years Martha.
For the past 30 years, Don and Martha have counselled couples and individuals in the Art of Relationship, their approach to intimate relationship as a spiritual path. In this conversation, Don talks about how he got started working with couples after his time living a monastic lifestyle in the wilds of Alaska; the keys to open hearted listening; his approach to working therapeutically with MDMA; advice on navigating difficult conversations; dealing with death; and some advice on writing.
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Brian James is a yoga teacher, musician, shamanic practitioner and transformational coach currently living in Montréal, Canada with his wife, astrologer Debbie Stapleton and their Boston Terrier Kingston. He has been exploring the intersection of music, yoga and shamanism for over 20 years.
Detailed Show Notes
00:05:30 How did you get started working with couples?
00:08:05 What are the most common issues that people struggle with in their relationships?
00:10:18 Saying “no” to the behaviour while saying “yes” to the being
00:11:17 How can we let go of anger and resentment?
00:13:48 Learning how to look with J Krishnamurti
00:17:45 Identifying what we really really want and need
00:21:24 Working with MDMA in the 1980s
00:23:33 His therapeutic approach when working with sacred medicines
00:28:36 Using “structures” when navigating challenging issues with your partner
00:35:19 The difference between validating and mirroring the other person’s upset
00:38:26 Raising the bar of respect in the way we talk to each other
00:43:17 Tracing behaviour back to early childhood experience
00:45:23 Other types of structures
00:46:17 Giving your partner a “day of grace”
00:48:16 Relationship as a spiritual path
00:52:25 The art of relationship
00:55:02 “Do you believe in enlightenment?”
00:56:19 Dealing with death
01:02:38 “What practices have been most helpful to you?”
01:04:44 Advice on writing
tags: brian james, don rosenthal, don & martha, relationship, couples, j krishnamurti, mdma, meditation, yoga